The collar bond can form at any stage between a Dominant and the submissive. Most commonly it happens during D/s exchange such as play. Occasionally it can take hold sooner and this often indicates a high ratio of psychological and emotional compatibility between the two parties.
Collar bonding has a profound impact on both parties. The sensation for the submissive in particular is like falling in love. This can cause tremendous conflict for those already engaged in happy and loving vanilla relationships. The Dominant finds Themselves feeling disproportionately protective of the sub. Both parties find they desire contact from the other.
The most important thing from the submissive perspective is to have taken time in advance of learning who the Dominant really is, because you'd better hope They can be trusted now! As the collar bond takes hold the submissive is in a vulnerable position as they accept the desire to hand more of themselves over than they ever hoped (and feared) would be possible on a personal, integral level. This obviously leaves them in an easily manipulative position emotionally and psychologically. A strong Dominant at this point will help to steady the submissive off and hold them steady. This is because a strong Dom/me prefers a thinking individual with enough backbone to bow with grace at Their feet through choice.
A weak dom/me will at this point manipulate the submissive into service/submission because they are unable to sustain the call for submission long term in the submissive, often milking the submissive financially too. These vultures will often also swoop on those who are struggling with a collar bond, and make the most of the vulnerable position the submissive is in.
Experiencing collar bonding can be frightening. Providing you have chosen the Dom/me who has called this up in you well, you should talk to Them about how you are feeling. They 'should' help talk you through what you are experiencing and to make sense of it. Give Them the opportunity to be Who you hope They are and to support you and help to keep you safe. Good communication with the One who called this in you is usually the wisest way forwards as They are involved in this process along with you.
Collar bonding has a profound impact on both parties. The sensation for the submissive in particular is like falling in love. This can cause tremendous conflict for those already engaged in happy and loving vanilla relationships. The Dominant finds Themselves feeling disproportionately protective of the sub. Both parties find they desire contact from the other.
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A weak dom/me will at this point manipulate the submissive into service/submission because they are unable to sustain the call for submission long term in the submissive, often milking the submissive financially too. These vultures will often also swoop on those who are struggling with a collar bond, and make the most of the vulnerable position the submissive is in.
Experiencing collar bonding can be frightening. Providing you have chosen the Dom/me who has called this up in you well, you should talk to Them about how you are feeling. They 'should' help talk you through what you are experiencing and to make sense of it. Give Them the opportunity to be Who you hope They are and to support you and help to keep you safe. Good communication with the One who called this in you is usually the wisest way forwards as They are involved in this process along with you.
Twistedly,
Mistress
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