The final portion of My recent exchange with My enquiring correspondent :) As before, My reply is expanded from the original.
Other seriously important things to consider are questions regarding play with the Dominant you have chosen. Is s/he really skilled enough to be doing the things to you that you crave? Can s/he verify this? Is s/he prepared to allow you to talk to other serves they hold? Is s/he safe in what s/he does? Do they have a good reputation on the scene? Is their personal, environmental and kit hygiene good?
Don't get Me wrong, there's nothing wrong with being new and learning as long as the Dominant is honest and tells you this. We all had to start somewhere! I strongly advise you to be careful at the younger (and more eye candy) end of things! Many here are 'wanna dommes' who have no true grasp of the psychological and emotional impact of play on others. Through no fault of their own they think that kink in real life is a one dimensional and simple as fictional characters are portrayed - 50 Shades has a LOT to answer for here. You should also be wary of 'escorts with a crop'. They are often only after your money and tend to charade as pro-Dommes with no idea of what real BDSM is about. If you are not asked searching questions about your physical and mental health do NOT play with them! If you're offered a 'happy ending' then you are dealing with an escort and not a true pro-Domme. NO pro-Domme worth Her salt will permit you to have sex with Her. To be blunt, pro-Dommes do NOT fuck their clients, escorts do!
A decent pro-Domme will ask you intrusive questions about your health and mental state. She will also ensure that you don't try to cram too much into your time. Frankly two activities is a squeeze to address within an hour of time, more than this will not permit deep enough exploration of the sensations you desire. So as a rule of thumb if a pro-Domme offers to fit in six items on your tick list She is after your coin, not sharing a fantastic experience with you. A good Dominant, whether professional or lifestyle, will also allow some come-down time from play to ensure you are feeling ok with your experience. We describe this as after-care and it is an essential part of deep play. Additionally, a good play session will include a warm up section and cool down section within the play to help you achieve a desired state to allow deep play.
Other seriously important things to consider are questions regarding play with the Dominant you have chosen. Is s/he really skilled enough to be doing the things to you that you crave? Can s/he verify this? Is s/he prepared to allow you to talk to other serves they hold? Is s/he safe in what s/he does? Do they have a good reputation on the scene? Is their personal, environmental and kit hygiene good?
Don't get Me wrong, there's nothing wrong with being new and learning as long as the Dominant is honest and tells you this. We all had to start somewhere! I strongly advise you to be careful at the younger (and more eye candy) end of things! Many here are 'wanna dommes' who have no true grasp of the psychological and emotional impact of play on others. Through no fault of their own they think that kink in real life is a one dimensional and simple as fictional characters are portrayed - 50 Shades has a LOT to answer for here. You should also be wary of 'escorts with a crop'. They are often only after your money and tend to charade as pro-Dommes with no idea of what real BDSM is about. If you are not asked searching questions about your physical and mental health do NOT play with them! If you're offered a 'happy ending' then you are dealing with an escort and not a true pro-Domme. NO pro-Domme worth Her salt will permit you to have sex with Her. To be blunt, pro-Dommes do NOT fuck their clients, escorts do!
A decent pro-Domme will ask you intrusive questions about your health and mental state. She will also ensure that you don't try to cram too much into your time. Frankly two activities is a squeeze to address within an hour of time, more than this will not permit deep enough exploration of the sensations you desire. So as a rule of thumb if a pro-Domme offers to fit in six items on your tick list She is after your coin, not sharing a fantastic experience with you. A good Dominant, whether professional or lifestyle, will also allow some come-down time from play to ensure you are feeling ok with your experience. We describe this as after-care and it is an essential part of deep play. Additionally, a good play session will include a warm up section and cool down section within the play to help you achieve a desired state to allow deep play.
Twistedly,
Mistress
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