The night of the 'chalk' outline

I've just had the most delicious time! My new trainee, Daisy, came across to serve and brought an amazing Guinness and chocolate cake. We spent time learning more about each other as we got ready to attend My home club. Lady Star-Brite (looking beautiful in a corset dress that was stunning) came along and helped Daisy with make-up (thank you!x). I also taught Daisy how to lace Me into my corset, and I have to give credit where it's due I was very pleased with the results - well done Daisy :) Daisy looked cute as a button as a French maid, although there was that little moment when we saw someone else in the same wig! LOL! 

Once we arrived at the club Daisy and I took a moment in the lush red room and found the door to Narnia. This 'brief' 40 minute moment (Daisy time!) actually took an hour and 20 minutes, LOL! ;) After this I was lucky enough to be able to abuse the legendary Tim the Terror! There is a slight possibility that I may have skinned his back a little tiny bit by taking a layer (or two-ish) off entirely... And the blade of My knife drew such lovely patterns on his fresh new skin the time just flew by! We had a fabulous time reminiscing about our diabolical escapades across almost a decade as I calmly ragged the skin from his back. When Tim stood up it looked for all the world like there was a chalk outline on the floor! On the plus side he did not bite through anything this time....I think! Thank you for remaining such a disgusting and pervy reprobate Tim! x  

This morning afforded Daisy and I the opportunity to explore some areas of development, and I now have a clearer vision about some directions to further develop and explore. After this pleasurable time had flown by I had some valued time with My family.

If Carlsburg made weekends, eh? ;) 

Twistedly,

Mistress x

How??????

Am I going mad or have approaches and profiles become even more mental? A good profile makes all the difference between being taken seriously or being seen as yet another 'wank & spank' merchant! 

Also, for the love of all that is holy think about how you approach people! Intelligence is attractive people!


Riddle me these bits of logic:

• How can a sissy or tranny really be into forced feminisation? 
• How can you possibly be a toilet slave via webcam?

Good grief! If you want a Dominant to take you seriously then put some information on your profile about what you've experienced/hope to experience, what you offer to a potential Dominant service & skill wise, and what you hope to achieve from the proposed exchange. Just so you know, general opinion amongst recipients is:

• If we see only cock shots = tosser hoping for free porn (with one stunning exception!).
• If we have to wait too long for your face shot = tosser hoping for free porn.
• If you have nothing on your profile = tosser hoping for free porn.
• If you have a list of things you want a Dominant to do TO you = selfish tosser hoping for free porn.
• If you talk the talk but wont walk the walk = tosser hoping for free porn.
• If you request endless pictures but give little/nothing yourself = tosser hoping for free porn.
• If your photos are very generic and you can't produce more with continuity = tosser hoping for free porn.

Remember, unless you are paying for professional services D/s is an exchange that should be mutually beneficial to both parties - that means finding out what both parties want! Make your profile inviting to someone, intrigue and entice them to want know more about you and you will gain more positive responses ... instead of being mistaken for = tosser hoping for free porn.

Twistedly,

Mistress x

Web-mistress Grinds Teeth to Powder

OMG! I'd forgotten how petulant and frankly menstrual most bloody website editing software is! Dear [deity of your choice] if I get one more broken link/picture that wont align I will scream like a damn banshee! No, save it where you like - I didn't point you to that directory for anything more than fun!

I must have masochistic tendencies to go with the OCD to not beat a web-slave into submission to build this! Anyway, burning desire to kill aside, the site is coming along well. A members only area (Inner Sanctum) is planned with training documentation and galleries to support development; the Training Circle is taking shape with  planned lessons; the Outer Sanctum area with general information and access to My public gallery is taking form, and Kinx Emporium is where you will find services - including the return of Mistress Anath at some point...

So many spaces to watch, where will you feast your eyes first?!?!?

Twistedly,

Mistress x

Seasons Beatings 2013

It's that time of year again. May those of you who are alone find peace and enjoy your day. May those of you with family be graced with the patience to not kill ANY of them, and the correct levels of alcohol to not mind building something with 9 million parts that it turns out you need three AA cells for!

Special Seasons Beatings go to My own special people: Brighteyes TM, Beast TM, trinket TM, and daisy. Thank you for the gift of your service and submission :) As well as the loyalty and devotion you continue to display. You do Me proud so very often, each in your own way xx

Special mentions could be made for so many people - I think you all know who you are :) If not, come see Me and I'll make sure you know! LOL! Can't wait to see many of you on the 28th and some more of you on the 4th :) 

Wishing you all a very Cruel Yule and a spanky New Year! 

Twistedly,

Mistress x

Collar Bonding - submissive support

The collar bond can form at any stage between a Dominant and the submissive. Most commonly it happens during D/s exchange such as play. Occasionally it can take hold sooner and this often indicates a high ratio of psychological and emotional compatibility between the two parties. 

Collar bonding has a profound impact on both parties. The sensation for the submissive in particular is like falling in love. This can cause tremendous conflict for those already engaged in happy and loving vanilla relationships. The Dominant finds Themselves feeling disproportionately protective of the sub. Both parties find they desire contact from the other.

For BlueWare xx

The most important thing from the submissive perspective is to have taken time in advance of learning who the Dominant really is, because you'd better hope They can be trusted now! As the collar bond takes hold the submissive is in a vulnerable position as they accept the desire to hand more of themselves over than they ever hoped (and feared) would be possible on a personal, integral level. This obviously leaves them in an easily manipulative position emotionally and psychologically. A strong Dominant at this point will help to steady the submissive off and hold them steady. This is because a strong Dom/me prefers a thinking individual with enough backbone to bow with grace at Their feet through choice.

A weak dom/me will at this point manipulate the submissive into service/submission because they are unable to sustain the call for submission long term in the submissive, often milking the submissive financially too. These vultures will often also swoop on those who are struggling with a collar bond, and make the most of the vulnerable position the submissive is in. 

Experiencing collar bonding can be frightening. Providing you have chosen the Dom/me who has called this up in you well, you should talk to Them about how you are feeling. They 'should' help talk you through what you are experiencing and to make sense of it. Give Them the opportunity to be Who you hope They are and to support you and help to keep you safe. Good communication with the One who called this in you is usually the wisest way forwards as They are involved in this process along with you.

Twistedly,

Mistress x

Twysts and turns

I'm delighted to announce that my own dedicated website will open again in 2014. I've had to relocate the site to a new web address at Twysted Mystress so point your browsers that way to view the hold page.

Many thanks to Chain of Command who worked on the image on the site for me (seen in this post). Thank you for making it perfect!

The new site will contain all the usual things you have come to love, such as classic shots in the gallery as well as new pictures to bring things up to date. 

There will also be a separate section within the Lifestyle section of the site for those who are members of House Twisted, as well as for those who study with me to hone their techniques. All training sections will be password protected to create a more intimate space, although there will still be general advice offered on the site.

Please let me know what you hope to see by commenting on this post. If you don't speak up and it doesn't make it onto the site you'll have no one to blame but yourself! LOL! 

Twistedly,

Mistress x

The submissive's gift

Have a Cruel Yule! x 

Yule is a time for giving. Ideally it's for giving time to those we love and care for far more than it is about the gifts. However, it gives a nice seasonal trim to a conversation I've had with a few people recently as a result of my advert: The gift of submission.

As a submissive you have a desire to give something to your Dominant, yes? Then make damn sure it is a thing of value, something not given too lightly. No decent Dominant will expect you to just blindly lay your submission before Them. If the Dominant you're talking with shows little interest in you as a person, be wary of the motives of the person. Do they want your submission? Or do they want free porn?

Likewise, if you honestly identify as submissive, then be aware that submission intelligently given is definitely a Dominants favourite. Also, your submission is something you should look after and value. It should not be readily available to any who demand it within three seconds! For the more slavish amongst My readers - remember to look after the goods! It is frankly unrealistic to expect your submission to be taken seriously if you spend it frivolously. None of Us wants anything that's worn thin, cheap and dog-eared! (Well, unless You wanted a 'puppy' for Christmas of course!). Why would I want something tarnished by the touch of many hands? 

Just remember, respect should be earned on both sides of the D/s equation.

Twistedly,

Mistress x

It's a daisy!

I had many strong candidates for the recent position of run about/plaything. Amongst them was a very unique individual, daisy. Many years ago he served Me in My community as the 'welcome matt' as I acted as his guardian while he awaited the return of his Queen. We have remained friends ever since. 

I'm delighted to say that daisy's Queen has graciously granted him leave to spend a time in My service. With these unique circumstances in mind I have decided to place daisy immediately on an honorary training collar in House Twisted. While he will be protected by Me as passionately as if he were My own, daisy will remain the valued property of his generous Queen. 

Welcome to House Twisted daisy, may you enjoy your time within our chain family.

As some other candidates were so strong, and frankly so interesting, I'm also considering opening an alternative role should further conversation go well. 

I'd say things are going to get interesting one way or another....  

Twistedly,

Mistress x

Selection process

What an interesting spread of applications I've had! And I must say how impressed I've been with the general quality too. How nice to find those who can actually READ! 

Now all applications are in and the gateway has been closed. I am screening those I feel are likely to be compatible with me play wise. One of the most important parts of this process at this point is getting to know the sub concerned as a person. Lifestyle play isn't just about how you play, but the dynamic you share. I like to chat about all sorts of different things at this point to get a 'feel' for the person I'm dealing with. It's also a chance for them to gain more of an idea about me, how hectic my world can be, and how many visitors and general interruptions I get! LOL! 

My world is very demanding and that means I don't have the time, inclination or energy to maintain a sub who requires constant attention and maintenance. I think that's why I play so many switches, it's more fun to break something that has some resistance (unless you're A5, in which case you have none for me! LOL!), and entertaining to keep something with spirit at my heel (I'm sure a few of you I'm talking with have recognised yourselves here!) ;) 

However, I have a love of contrasts so I adore playing with very submissive masochists too (and I'm certain you know who you are! LOL!). The 'flavour' is totally different. Where a switch plays in sharp hues and crispness, there is a warmth and almost nurturing edge to the exchange shared with a deeply submitting person. 

For those of you who are currently talking with me, thank you for your honesty and trust. To those of you I declined, thank you for your interest in the role, I wish you good fortune in your search. Finally, as ever, thank you to Brighteyes{TM} for your continued and valued service. 

Now to start meeting the chosen few......watch this space ;-)

Twistedly,

Mistress x

Pure Sadism

What is a 'pure sadist'? I would imagine that more than a few would consider it to be a kind of ego boosting "my sadism's better than your sadism" kind of tripe. There are many forms of sadism in my opinion. I will brush over a couple and explain what I mean by 'pure sadism'. I'm not being an elitist snob, honest! But I do have a specific in mind, and I KNOW that I'm not the only one to play this way. Let me explain...

Perhaps the most common form of consensual sadist is the sexual sadist. Sexual sadists who become aroused sexually by inflicting pain on others and need to satiate this sexual urge. They are aware of these feelings and revel in it (who can blame them!). They either gain satiation within the agreed scene, or afterwards. 

Others are sadists with something to prove. The trophy sadists. The ones who want to boast that their sub took more than the next, or that they are more hardcore than the next. Very often these are afflicted with the firm belief they are a blessing from Anath herself, with no grasp of the passion or respect that such an exchange deserves. They may be highly skilled and/or practised in some arts, however, their technique will be repetitious and uninspired. They do not engage in the same manner with their submissive, and so their performance remains 'text book perfect' without the passion of responsiveness to provide adaptability. It is frankly all about posture and pissing up a wall.

However, for others, once in full sadistic swing sexual contact can be an irritant. Why be bothered with such a 'mundane' thing as mere sex, when there is THIS?! All there is for someone in this state is THIS....THIS action....THIS moment of "I wonder"....THIS fascination...THIS moment - to be as fully in the present as is humanly possibly...THIS absolute focus. For a sadist like this a sexual advance is an irritation, a distraction. An intrusion into a more 'spiritual' experience of sadism I suppose...it's hard to reduce to words. Biological responses go unnoticed. There is no clamouring for attention from any erogenous zones, because they can not be heard above the screaming silence that is THIS. And on the other side of THIS? It's soooo fantastically languid it's impossible to describe. Time ceases to have any meaning and it slips through your fingers like liquid. Now THIS is where the sadism is an end to itself. 

A 'pure sadism' is one that is apart from calculated kudos, sexual drive and urge; although these last are tools to be used to torment others with - evil grin! It is born from a place where the focus is so absolute there is nothing else. Essentially dom/me space without the sex! :) 

Now do you see why you need to be a masochist? :-D 

Twistedly,

Mistress x

The Quiet Return

I've been off the scene for a loooooong while. My health is finally improving and I have come to terms with some difficult events in my personal life. Finally, I have my muchness back! Wooooooot! 

Luckily the return of my muchness coincided with the return of my beloved home club. At the moment things are still very low key there, and I was privileged enough to attend the very first night. I was abusing my dear pet brighteyes{TM} that day, and managed to arrange taking him in with me. Lucky little devil that he is! We had a blast as we explored the cage, the Red Room, the open room kit - I already have my favourite piece there this year! LOL! However, for the play I had in mind the medical room seemed to offer the most opportunity to be evil! :) 

Once I had my victim volunteer on the medical couch and safely secured (just in case he should fall and hurt himself obviously!), I thoughtfully proceeded to check his lung functionality by stress testing them. I engaged in several extended research experiments including cling wrap, and rubble bags (my favourite!) which resulted in drawing the conclusion that dear little brighteyes has quite good lungs. Even if you distract him by doing terrible things to the rest of him, he stays alive and everything! LOL! Well done for staying alive to next set of experiments brighty! LOL!

It was great to see so many of my old friends too. I've missed the scene very much over the last few years and have every intention of putting that right! As my dear brighteyes will now be primarily my admin slave, I will need a fresh new plaything that can escort me to events when I want them to. This is not because I'm too lazy to drive, it is because I can't play to the same level and guarantee I'm safe to drive if I've slammed into Dom/me space. I'm also looking for that person to be prepared to play once there, so basically a masochistic sub really! LOL! In fact...


VACANCY: 'run about' masochistic submissive wanted - You need to be able to drive obviously; you absolutely and most definitely need to be extremely masochistic; you should be able to hold a decent and intelligent conversation; a sense of humour is vital or you wont last five minutes; have I mentioned being masochistic?; ideally markable (under clothes); ideally a bit of a service streak. Do not expect or anticipate intimate service, again obviously! And as I've mentioned, I AM a 'pure' sadist first and foremost (it is an end unto itself for me), so play compatibility IS very important to this role. 

To apply, hit up one of my community profiles, either on fetlife or collarme. Please note that it is not always myself that access these accounts, as brighteyes is tasked with their administration when I get busy. 

Please do read the adverts properly before you apply! I don't open a position like this very often, so I will be taking my time to ensure that my short list is wisely chosen. I plan to return to the play scene on a regular but not too demanding basis, so you need to be able to commit to this. 

Twistedly,

Mistress x