This can often be a difficult task. Like all communities ours contains both good and bad. With a membership around the 12 million mark there is also room for different groups of people who hold different principles and values. With the commercial popularity of '50 Shades' our community has experienced wider recognition and accessibility. While I personally think it's good that we are finally recognised as a community, it has allowed all kinds of 'wanna subs' and 'insta dom/mes' to spring up. While these people pose no community threat, they can and often do pose a safety threat in many ways.
Those who are very new to the scene do need and want to learn relevant skills and have a healthy attitude towards things. Yet many think they can just pick up a set of crops and other toys and head straight into play. Many are unable to answer even the most basic of play questions such as:
- Where should they strike a person in impact play to have fun and stay safe?
- How do they keep their equipment in good shape so they don't harm someone?
- Do they know basic first aid so that if there is an accident you can help keep keep the person safe while help is sought? What are the risks of the activity?
- Can they tease more than one thrill from the game being played?
- Will they support you emotionally and psychologically if you need it?
- How will you signal that you need them to stop or reduce intensity?
If someone can't discuss these things with you, are you wise to engage in play with them? Remember, the things we enjoy carry an element of risk to them...it's what makes them fun. You are responsible for your safety before anyone else. Are you looking after yourself?
Twistedly,
Mistress
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