On many sites there are several choices you can make about your orientation, how you relate to Kink and many other areas. On fetlife for example the option to 'live it 2/7' is available. This tends to be the option I use because My Domme aspect is only ever a shadow away with Me. I've the luxury (and balls!) to make Kink part of my whole world, primarily because it is a huge part of who I am as a person. However, it would be unrealistic and frankly unhealthy for Me be in Domme role all the time. I use the term to describe the level of fluidity I have with Kink. A kind of warning that I may be in pink pyjamas (A5!) but can still make you beg if it entertains Me. Then we come to the definition of what being Dominant actually is. One lover I had for a (brief!) spell saw everything in terms of dominance and submission, rather than understanding where true authority resides. What one gets up to when folk dancing horizontally is not a definition of dominance and submission, but a moment shared by two people (ok, sometimes with a little kink in the mix! LOL!). I can recall endless debates on Informed Consent about whether you could be a 'real' Domme if you had sex in certain positions! I can't honestly imagine anything more reducing than limiting Myself because of another person's ridiculous notions of where I find my shits & giggles! Frankly if a Dominant woman wants something and has any sense she wont allow others to inform her of how she 'should' achieve it. Neither is there any weakness in embracing all of who you are. Surely it is only the weak who run from who they are? From the things they enjoy? And perhaps hide behind a role instead of being an authentic and honestly whole person?
Twistedly,
Mistress
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