Nurse Perverse

Cower by the hour

For a click of My heel,

The snick of My steel.

Beg for Me

Plead for Me

Bleed for Me.

Lay at bay

As I pick you to bits

All covered with slits.

Beg for Me

Plead for Me

Bleed for Me.

Flinch by the inch,

Moan at My feet

Pathetic, yet neat

Beg for Me

Plead for Me

Bleed for Me.

Nurse Perverse

Watches her pet

As all becomes wet

Beg for Me

Plead for Me

Bleed for Me.

Twistedly,

Mistress x

Subjective Definitions

On many sites there are several choices you can make about your orientation, how you relate to Kink and many other areas. On fetlife for example the option to 'live it 2/7' is available. This tends to be the option I use because My Domme aspect is only ever a shadow away with Me. I've the luxury (and balls!) to make Kink part of my whole world, primarily because it is a huge part of who I am as a person. However, it would be unrealistic and frankly unhealthy for Me be in Domme role all the time. I use the term to describe the level of fluidity I have with Kink. A kind of warning that I may be in pink pyjamas (A5!) but can still make you beg if it entertains Me. 

Then we come to the definition of what being Dominant actually is. One lover I had for a (brief!) spell saw everything in terms of dominance and submission, rather than understanding where true authority resides. What one gets up to when folk dancing horizontally is not a definition of dominance and submission, but a moment shared by two people (ok, sometimes with a little kink in the mix! LOL!). I can recall endless debates on Informed Consent about whether you could be a 'real' Domme if you had sex in certain positions! I can't honestly imagine anything more reducing than limiting Myself because of another person's ridiculous notions of where I find my shits & giggles! Frankly if a Dominant woman wants something and has any sense she wont allow others to inform her of how she 'should' achieve it. Neither is there any weakness in embracing all of who you are. Surely it is only the weak who run from who they are? From the things they enjoy? And perhaps hide behind a role instead of being an authentic and honestly whole person? 

Twistedly,

Mistress x

Unicorn Hunting Part 3

Once you have established that the person you are talking to is genuine and who they claim to be, how do you meet them safely and make sure of this? If they are who they seem to be then meeting at a munch or local cafe wont be a problem. Genuine people will understand it is common sense to meet somewhere public while you get a 'feel' for each other.

Someone inclined to prey on others will attempt to coerce you into meeting more privately and/or not have a reputation that you can check. I sometimes meet privately with others as first contact, however, I have ascertained who they are as a person first and held lengthy conversations with them across several weeks. It is My experience of pro-Domme work that makes this something I'm familiar with, and I place certain safety restrictions down for both parties to ensure that this is a safe and sane choice. However, not everyone has a decade of reputation and experience to rely on!

I can be found attending various munches historically and am now returning to attending more of them as I ease back into the scene more. As a sadistic Domme I can be casually met at these events and am happy to talk to people and make new friends. I also occasionally offer to meet specific subs, slaves, switches and Dom/mes at munches I attend where others can vouch for who I am. I am also happy for those who are checking me out for being who I claim to be to contact others I'm involved with. Why would I mind if someone asked these questions before meeting Me?

Sometimes finding someone you are compatible with is as a rare and elusive a find as a unicorn. If the unicorn you think have spotted can't give you any of these things, why are you trusting your health, safety and life to them?

Twistedly,

Mistress x

Unicorn Hunting Part 2

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Unicorn Hunting Part 1

We all want to find that 'special person', be they Dominant, submissive, slave or switch. Ideally we want someone who will be compatible with us in the ways in which we like to play as well as a person. 

This can often be a difficult task. Like all communities ours contains both good and bad. With a membership around the 12 million mark there is also room for different groups of people who hold different principles and values. With the commercial popularity of '50 Shades' our community has experienced wider recognition and accessibility. While I personally think it's good that we are finally recognised as a community, it has allowed all kinds of 'wanna subs' and 'insta dom/mes' to spring up. While these people pose no community threat, they can and often do pose a safety threat in many ways.

Those who are very new to the scene do need and want to learn relevant skills and have a healthy attitude towards things. Yet many think they can just pick up a set of crops and other toys and head straight into play. Many are unable to answer even the most basic of play questions such as:

• Where should they strike a person in impact play to have fun and stay safe? 
• How do they keep their equipment in good shape so they don't harm someone? 
• Do they know basic first aid so that if there is an accident you can help keep keep the person safe while help is sought? What are the risks of the activity? 
• Can they tease more than one thrill from the game being played? 
• Will they support you emotionally and psychologically if you need it?
• How will you signal that you need them to stop or reduce intensity? 

If someone can't discuss these things with you, are you wise to engage in play with them? Remember, the things we enjoy carry an element of risk to them...it's what makes them fun. You are responsible for your safety before anyone else. Are you looking after yourself?

Twistedly,

 Mistress x

House Twisted Addition

I am pleased to welcome Chain of Command to House Twisted as Alpha Switch. We have a long association together and Chain of Command holds good standing in the Community as organiser of Sheffield Under 35's Munch. Chain has been a thorn in My side for many years, and I wouldn't change him for the world :)  

As a switch Chain of Command expands the Chain Family of House Twisted in a balanced and creative way. Bringing with him his wickedly creative style of play, and calmly organised skills House Twisted is greatly enhanced. Please note that  his collared, bratty, sub _Sammich_ is protected by House Twisted as the House kitten. 

I would like to formally welcome Twisted Chain to our Twisted chain family. Truly a Twisted Chain indeed :) 

Twistedly,

Mistress x

Safe Calls

If you have arranged to meet anyone from a web site or munch then please, please make sure you set up a safe call. Meeting with a potential play partner is an exciting part of our community that is common amongst us, because ours is a community built on trust for one another. However, this does leave things open for exploitation by some of those who prey on the edges of our world. A safe call is a sensible precaution, and someone should know where you really are and with whom.

You should set your safe call up to know where and who you are with. Then either text or call them a while into your meeting. You should also ideally have a later time pre-arranged to make contact with your safe call – even if it’s to let them know it’s going brilliantly and you’ll be longer than expected! The same process of a safe call set up applies to both parties, even if receiving someone into your ‘home territory’.

Remember, your safety is your responsibility and you should treat it with respect.

Twistedly,

Mistress x