Common sense?

Common sense is often hard to find around kink. Part of the 'problem' is caused by how repressed many must keep this part of their personality. Once faced with the prospect of exploring this facet, common sense can often fly out of the window.

Common sense things to do include making yourself a kink specific email address. Take a look at Yahoo (very useful mailbox aliases - be aware that others may utilise this feature too!) or Google. Once you've done this, pop over to some good, solid sites like Informed Consent, FetLife and CollarMe and do some reading. They are free to join, contain good reference sections, and have lively discussion boards that can teach you a lot. Remember, everyone is entitled to their point of view, and that everyone finds different things exciting and alluring. Being involved in BDSM means acting like an adult and accepting responsibility for the things you do and don't elect to expose yourself to.

If you're not sure what to say on any profiles you make using your lovely new email address, don't be shy to let people know that you are new to things. Kinksters are generally a warm and friendly bunch who understand that everyone has to start somewhere. We don't tend to bite unless we know you well and you ask very, very nicely!

Twistedly,

Mistress x

Hair styles for special girls

The right hair for your face shape makes the world of difference. As you can see from My images I'm lucky enough to be able to wear my hair short or long, straight or curly.

Generally bear in mind that hair that finishes above or at your jaw line can potentially draw attention to an area you may prefer to soften. If the cut is right it can disguise a more masculine jaw line, but this is a little more hit & miss than taking hair a little longer and fuller to veil the line.

If you want a very natural finish, look for a wig in the same hair colour as your own, or perhaps a shade lighter. Going blonde or a strong red is a fun option but pay attention to your skin colour to see if you can pull it off (to try before you buy, enlist a friend and get them to 'dare' you to try a particular colour wig on when out and about!). A good quality synthetic wig need not cost the earth either. I wear wigs to play with My image and can personally recommend Vogue and Fumi wigs on ebay. Their synthetic range is affordable and the quality exceptional for the price at around £25. If you have a full head of hair I recommend buying or making a wig cap to keep your own hair under control and beneath your wig. Keep the hairnet and bag that the wig comes in to store it after use to help maintain its condition.

Twistedly,

Mistress
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Face shapes for special girls

The next important part of your journey is to evaluate your face shape. This is important because it will help to inform your hair style selection as well as how to apply make-up for the most feminine finish.

To work out what face shape you have sit in front of a mirror with your hair pulled back off your face and use a lipstick or eyeliner to draw around your reflection (use washing up liquid to remove all traces and score brownie points for cleaning a mirror!). Be honest about what you find. We'd all like the perfect oval but pretending you have one when you don't is counter-productive!

Once you have identified honestly what your face shape is you can start looking at make-up tips for your face shape (in other words, little sneaky tricks to make your face look more oval!) and the most flattering hair styles for you.

Twistedly,

Mistress
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Skin care for 'special' girls

It's no secret that I am the Owner of one t-girl and friend to others. In response to many questions covering the same area I've decided to blog about a few common areas :) Today is the basics for good make-up, skin care.

The key to lasting and good make-up is excellent skin care. Special girls have additional needs that sometimes need to be addressed discretely. Well moisturised skin is the key here but it's not always easy to get away with it. Fortunately these days male grooming is more common, with male (more expensive) moisturisers everywhere including the supermarket shelf. The first sneaky swap is to buy female moisturiser because "it's more cost effective" (look for fragrance free if you don't want to share your personal life with work colleagues!). The other thing to do is to apply moisturiser before your shaving foam when you shave your face as well as afterwards. This will not only give you a smoother shave but a significantly softer skin texture. And your other half will love not getting a snog rash from your lovely soft skin! Give this a week and you will see a significant difference, making your make-up go on better and last longer

Twistedly,

Mistress
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